It is challenging in itself to be a new bride, to balance the elements of life; work, home, friends, extra curricular activities, etc. Now add the one element that takes more commitment and time than any other: kids.
It can be a little tricky to adjust to the role of new bride, continue to develop your relationship with your husband, and be the available parent that you need to be.
- Remember, children need to adjust to new situations too (just like adults), so patience is essential. They can often feel unsure of their new role in the family.
- Reassure your children that you have enough love for every family member. You may find it helpful to point out that there will actually be more love and attention to go around with an extra parent in the house. In order to avoid feelings of being “left out” and/or the urge to compete for attention, be sure you spend one on one time with your child or children as often as you can. It is equally important for your child(ren) to spend alone time with your new husband as well, to facilitate growth in their relationship.
- Keeping the lines of communication open between you and your child(ren) is another important task. Family meetings can be a useful tool and an appropriate venue for each member of the family to discuss problems or issues in a safe and controlled atmosphere. It is empowering for children to have a platform to identify and vocalize their concerns and will encourage open communication between everyone in your home.
In the midst of all of this change and adjustment, it is vital for you and your new husband to spend alone time together too. Taking the time to strengthen your bond will support a stable environment within the new family. Although it can seem demanding at times, blended families can be as successful as the time and patience you invest. Keep a positive attitude and allow everyone time and space to adjust. Remember, love and happiness brought your new family together…so live, love and be happy!
Photo courtesy of Allison Stahl Photography
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This can be a challenge even if the children are mostly grown. Hubby's daughter is 19 but she will always be his little girl. Being a few years younger than him I can see some things that she does that are not what they appear and the challenge has been in learning in the balance of what is important to mention and what should just be left alone.
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