Ask Marvin- Overwhelmed By New Family

Dear Marvin,
I am feeling very overwhelmed by my “new” family lately! It seems as though my fiancé’s parents are having a hard time adjusting to the newest member of the family…me! I feel as though any time my fiancé and I make a decision regarding the wedding, they somehow find a way to take offense or issue with me. When I try to discuss the issue, they act as if they don’t know what I am talking about. It seems as though we are all having a difficult time relating to one another as well as adjusting to our new situation. This is just so frustrating and the last thing I need while trying to plan our wedding! How do I address the issue and reach a solution if nobody wants to talk about the problem?

Overwhelmed and Frustrated

Dear Overwhelmed and Frustrated,
Close your eyes, take a deep breath (in through the nose and out through the mouth) and think happy thoughts. This is a HAPPY time in your life. You have met your one true love and have the privilege of adding new members to your family. It sounds as if everyone (including you) needs to maintain perspective on the situation. Remember, this is YOUR wedding. You have complete creative control. Now, that being said, it is also important to remember that keeping those around you happy can be directly related to your happiness level. Perhaps there is a responsibility you could turn over to your soon to be in laws, like planning the rehearsal dinner (traditionally appropriate). Not only will it include them in the planning process, but it will tie up some of their time as well. In the end, make certain that all of your decisions are regret free. And, most importantly, give everyone involved a little time to adjust. In the meantime, keeping a positive outlook on the situation will help immensely and ensure you have lots of happy memories of this special time!

Marvin

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