The first year of marriage is often considered the most difficult-and with good reason. Most couples spend a great deal of time and energy planning for the perfect day, but give little thought to planning for the year preceding their wedding. The time leading up to the big day is usually filled with multiple social gatherings (showers, luncheons, bachelor/bachelorette parties, etc.), and lots of positive attention for the bride and groom. It is not uncommon for couples to feel a let down after their nuptials, similar to post holiday or post party blues. The first thing to realize is that these feelings are completely normal. Give yourself time to adjust to your new situation and all the new emotions you are experiencing. Creating a plan for the first year of your life, including organized social events and romantic getaways for you and your spouse will ease your transition during this first year.
Also, be prepared for all the compromises and adjustments that are necessary following your wedding day. Conflicts will arise, and when they do, take them in stride. Work on accepting and embracing each other’s differences. After all, the differences as well as the commonalities are what attracted you to one another.
Remember, even though the first year of marriage is considered the most difficult, it can also be equally joyous. This is the period of time when you will learn the most about each other, so cherish this time together. It is always important to try and maintain perspective while you are in the moment, even when times are difficult. This newlywed phase builds the foundation of what your marriage will be, so embrace each other’s differences and love each other for who you are.
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